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Fly-in or Online:

Couples' CPR & Reconnection; And
Confidence Coaching for Those Tired of Living Small

Relationships often suffer a slow erosion over the years, with couples experiencing increased fighting, miscommunication, and sometimes infidelity. Changing times means relationship roles being rebuilt, except we don't learn how to manage these changes. In an age where negotiation is paramount (where even, who does the night diapers, get negotiated), communication is all the more important. With extra demands, distractions, and expectations (yet less support of a community than before) couples today have a hard job to maintain a healthy relationship, the very foundation of a happy family. Having children can add stress, leading couples to neglect their union. A rocky relationship affects your overall well-being, work, sleep, diet, energy, and connection with others. And unfortunately, affects the children too. But you do NOT need to navigate these waters alone!


If you experience any of the following, it may be time for you to consider relationship coaching for couples:


  • Fighting without resolution or repairs.

  • Withdrawing (giving or getting the 'cold shoulder' or looks like the person doesn't care).

  • Disconnection (not feeling seen, heard, or appreciated. Not sharing stories or events with each other anymore. Your partner not being the one you want to tell the big news to when you hear something are some examples).

  • Loneliness (no matter how busy or noisy things at home are, you long for connection and being seen).

  • Resentment (the heavy weight of unmet needs and let down).


Whether you’re trying to salvage your relationship or recover your love for one another, I bring a breadth of marriage counseling experience using research-backed methods and years of experience.

My online coaching can help you change your life – in 3 months or less! Marriage coaching online is highly effective. But you can fly in if you would like a weekend (or week-long) marital intensive! Get done in a weekend what usually takes months!


Traditional therapy can take months to get results. Marital Intensives, also known as marathon sessions by the Gottmans, are like private, tailor-made marriage boot camps that help rebuild your relationship within only a few days. And my VIP Bootcamp is private - no other couples! Just me and the two of you to really dig deep and rebuild your sacred relationship. 


Don't waste any more time being unhappy – let me help you revive your love for one another compassionately and safely and lead you to a place of greater connection without sacrificing who you are. Let's save your marriage!!

And for those on the fence on if they want to save the marriage. Especially when there's been an affair(s) and the emotions are all over the show, let's do some discernment work to see where to from here. This way, whatever you decide after our sessions (so whether to stay or go), you will feel more equipped - knowing what happened to your marriage to get you here, and why you're making the decision you are.

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"We've gotten more out of 10 minutes with you than we got in total out of the 3 therapists we'd been to before you."


Prioritize Your Best Life

30-Day Relationship Resuscitation

A month of tailormade, intensive support - relationship CPR. The first half is made up of assessments and individual exploring of your past and your beliefs and the second part is working on the goals based on the insights discovered in the first part.
This can be done online or you can fly in to see me (or I can fly in to see you two, at your expense - Covid situation dependent).
During these sessions, there are no other couples, so it's a weekend (or during the week) tailor-made for your unique needs. It includes online assessments, as well as individual exploration for mindsets and limiting beliefs, and a 5-hour workshop based on the prioritized goals extracted from the assessments. This is then followed up with a 2-3 hour session 2-3 weeks later to see what worked and what needs to be tweaked further to ensure the best results going forward!

Please note, not everyone is eligible for these intensives and a free 20-minute interview would be required before we can book this for you.

Affair Discovery 'CPR'A 4-Day Intensive

An affair(s) shatters not only the relationship but the identities of those in the relationship! Not only does one really need to understand why it happened, but you also need to explore and rebuild your individual identities and work through very difficult triggers (that present like PTSD). And during the crisis, no big decisions (like whether or not you two should stay together), should be made. 

This intensive 4-day package allows us time to tame some of the triggers, get clarity on what's happening and why, and work on crisis management. 

Relationship Aftercare Package

These are sessions booked after the CPR intensives to check-in and remain accountable over the next 3 months to make sure what you learnt and decided during the intensive is implemented and tweaked to be used as needed at home.
The number of sessions, and how long each session is, is dependent on your life demands, your unique needs, and my time available. But would be roughly a total of 12 hours, spread out as needed. 

Clarity & Confidence Builder Package

Living small serves no one, not even you. Whatever you're getting from it, isn't close to what you could be getting from unleashing your true potential. 
I believe we are all born with a unique, special story / flavor to bring to the world. And I also believe we are all born believing we are awesome too. But somewhere along the line we got lied to and believed other opinions above our own. 
I love helping people (I was one of them too) who don't know how incredible they are to fill their void with truth and own their 'bad-ass awesomeness'! By busting your limiting beliefs (think ugly duckling to swan here), you get to see what you are truly capable of and get to live in greater ease and freedom. 

This package is tailormade to your needs and over your timeline. And can be done over anything from one month to four months (usually in about max18 hours). 

Single Session - 90 Minutes

At Unpacking Minds I give my clients the valuable guidance and support they need to live life as intended - an experience of the exceptional!

These single sessions are recommended for anyone needing only a slight tweak here or there, or wanting to get to know me first, or for those needing a session to work on any phobia or to stop smoking.

Helping Hand

"Choose discomfort over resentment."

Brene Brown



Therapist to Coach

Tehilla (pronounced Te-hee-la, or easier, Tequila with an 'h') is Hebrew for Song of Praise. I am an avid learner and I am passionate about helping people uncover their true worth! I have been doing couples and individual counseling for nearly a decade now in private practice. I am internationally trained and highly experienced, and through online coaching, I can reach across the globe, and help you change your life - in 3 months or less!

My sessions are a minimum of 90-minutes long because I have seen how much deeper we can go this way. And for couples, I love offering marathon sessions, this means we get done in a day, which could normally take months.

I live and love from South Africa. I am passionate about helping successful souls transform their doubts into passion and pose. I also really love helping lonely, hurt couples transform their pain into intimate connections.

I really look forward to hearing from you! 


Want to hear more about how I can transform your life? Contact me today to schedule a session. International Excellence at your fingertips.

GLOBALLY ONLINE - based in South Africa


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You See Me

“You have no idea how it feels for me to have found someone after all these years that I truly feel safe to share with. I trust you Tehilla and I have always struggled with trust. But you get me!”

Invaluable Time Saved

"We’ve gotten more in 30-minutes with you than we did from 4 months with our previous therapist."

The Kids Notice

"Our kids walked in on us kissing in the kitchen and got told they think it's time we stop seeing you - it's working too well!"